Self-love is regard for one’s happiness and growth in terms of spiritually, physically, and mentally. It is important for us to recognize our self, allow to nurture our well-being and inspire our self to inspire others too.
Let me share you some of the best advice’s I got from my family and friends that has helped me understand my self and perform self-love.
7 Amazing Self-Love Advices
Give a Hug
Allow yourself to be affectionate to others. Self-love means letting yourself find happiness in the happiness of others. Small things count like giving a hug! At first, I was afraid to show affection to others. I thought it is clingy and inappropriate because it is like crossing boundaries. But I realized that as long as you know your grounds and limits then it is okay.
Show some love with your family and friends! It is a sign of respect too! Give thanks by hugging. Say your goodbyes by hugging. Say your hellos by hugging. It is self-rewarding and it helps remove yours and others anxiety.
Know your Limits
I love coffee! I can drink 4 cups or more a day. However, because I found out that I have hormonal imbalance then I controlled the intake of my coffee.
I found out as well that I don’t like too much noise. It makes me irritable. So, to protect myself from being moody and being short tempered I don’t go in clubs that has too much noise. I’d rather choose a cafe that has soothing music at the background.
Know your limits means to better understand yourself. It can be physical, mental, or spiritual. If you know your limits, it is easy for you to control yourself in whatever aspects it maybe.
You don’t need to be religious. Because faith is a complete trust of GOD instead of any religion.
Looking back, I never thought that I will become what I am today. I was a thin, shy, poor girl who grew up from a small rural area. I used to go to school without breakfast and without snacks. Walking 2km from our house to school with the eagerness of learning and graduating. I experienced being mocked and treated differently among others. It was painful but because of faith I stood tall.
Faith taught me to love myself. Faith taught me to believe in myself. Faith taught me to hope. Faith taught me how to be courageous. Faith taught me how to respect and forgive myself.
Learn to Wait
Patience is a virtue! Do not rush yourself. Learn to wait. Don’t compare yourself to others. Every man has his own time, his own turn. Be patience in waiting for your turn. Instead work smart and hard in attaining your goals while patiently waiting.
I was so upset because I was not able to enroll in college for the second time. I had to stop due to financial issues. I thought I will not be able to finish my studies and earn my degree. Time has passed. I earned my degree and was able to march obtaining my university diploma! I didn’t care if I earned my university diploma late compared to my batch mates. What matters is I completed my studies, facing all challenges that came up in my way!
You will be able to. When it’s your time then it’s your time! So, wait for your turn.
Always be active. You don’t need to go to the gym every day! Well, if you do go to the gym to do your exercises, keep it up! If not, at least do 15-20 minutes’ walk every day. Go out to your neighborhood and walk. It’s also a chance for you to meet new acquaintance and connect with your neighbors.
I got to be honest, this is also a struggle for me. So, what I usually do is basic yoga and stretching. I also do breathing exercises. Exercising together with balanced diet will help you keep a better immune system, keep yourself fit, and keep a better mental health too!
Be a Hero
There’s a saying that ‘True hero does not wear cape’. Absolutely correct! Because you can be a hero by doing simple gesture to others, animals, and plants!
Help an old person crossing the road. Help your mother keeping the house. Buy a less fortunate person a meal or snacks. Don’t hit a stray dog or cat. Don’t shoot a bird. Throw your litter in the trash bin. Water the plants. Huge difference comes from small things.
One of my new year’s resolution this year 2020 is to use reusable or eco-bag when shopping. A lady said to the bagger “Oh! I want that orange bag too! Why did you just put mine in the brown bag?” The bagger replied “Ma’am, it’s hers (pointing at me)”. “Oh, okay” “Let’s keep an eco-bag next time” the lady then told to her daughter! My inner soul is jumping happily tapping my shoulder! Oh, what a good example! Good job! 🤩🧡
Forgive and Forget
Like what I said in my previous post about forgiveness, it is a difficult process. But forgiveness is vital to your wholeness as a person. Forgiving yourself and others is important for your mental health and well-being. You are human. You will commit errors despite of striving to be perfect. At some point of your life you will fall because of a bad decision. By this time, forgiving yourself and forgetting the mistakes and pain will help you stand up and be a better person.
In my university days, I had a ‘terror accounting professor’. Thus, I always see to it that I will complete my assignments and study before entering her class. One day, I was so caught up with my schedule given that I was working full time, 8 hours a day during morning and going to school right after my work. I did my best to understand and complete my assignment but there’s one accounting problem which I had difficulty. I was so lucky that day and I was asked to solve that item in front of the class.
I managed to give the correct answer, but I am unable to explain it. I am so confused with the formula and its why and how’s. The ‘terror accounting professor’ scolded me in front of the class. I felt embarrassed! I was angry to myself! I was angry to my professor!
Time passed. Realization occurs! I thanked that professor and myself for that event. Because of that occurrence I realized that I don’t want to be an accountant. I don’t want to see myself locked in a four cornered room counting monies that aren’t mine and looking for the missing cents. That’s event pushed me to evaluate myself and cross checked myself. What I really want to do in the future! Hence, I have changed my degree from BSBA Financial Accounting to BSBA Management which I have complete.🤩
Self-love is not a selfish thing. Self-love is learning to development yourself while attaining your own true happiness. Remember these seven simple advises:
- Give a Hug
- Know your Limits
- Have Faith
- Learn to Wait
- Be a Hero
- Forgive and Forget
What’s your idea about self-love? What advice you can give to do self-love? I love to hear from you!
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