Good relationships are vital for many various reasons. Healthy relationships help increase our emotional wellness and create an encouraging impact on our mental and physical health stability. It can also help us build stronger connections with our loved ones and other helpful benefits.
I’m thrilled that our fifth year of blissful marriage is in June 2020. Those years taught me a lot and helped me become a more mature and better person. So, I’ve compiled a list of my top five relationship issues to avoid maintaining a healthy relationship with your loved ones! And hopefully will also help you manage and navigate the bitter-sweet episodes of married life.
Five Relationship Problems to Avoid
1. Being Egoistic
As humans, men, and women, we tend to be egoistic. You always want to be heard, to be followed, to be acknowledged, and to be recognized as vitally important. Especially if you are in a marital relationship or even in any other relationship. However, being egoistic will lead to a one-way relationship.
One-way relationship means there’s no balance. While everything should be balanced for both partners. If there’s no balance in your relationship, there will be a lack of happiness. And if your partner is no longer happy with your relationship, then that will start causing problems. Problems that may lead to ending your rapport and intimate bond.
I’m thankful that my hubby and I have fairly managed this problem. Neither I nor he has any issues in terms of being egoistic. Though we have seen a few friends having this issue which led them into an unhealthy heated argument. Sadly, eventually to separation.
2. Being Close-minded
One of the vital ingredients in a relationship is tolerance. As a partner or spouse, you must be open-minded towards your husband or wife. Close-minded people are people who don’t want to be challenged. They are afraid of being corrected or improve their selves.
You must not get offended or frustrated if your partner disagrees with you. Believe it or not, my hubby and I have a lot in common and a lot of differences too! In a relationship, there are also differences in terms of opinions, beliefs, cultures, and traditions.
To handle differences, you need to be a good listener and an observer. Be curious why your partner disagrees with you. Perhaps, he or she has a valid and vital point that will enhance your decisions together and give a long-lasting benefit.
Remember to be tolerant by being open-minded.
Selfishness is a relationship wrecker. It suffocates your spouse or partner. As humans, it’s all-natural that we tend to protect our property. But in terms of relationships, because of selfishness, you treat your spouse as property that you don’t want to share with others.
Your spouse or partner has his or her own life too. He or she has family, friends, co-workers, and other acquaintances. There are times that it is required for them to engage in activities with others too. This is to discover their selves, enhance their social skills, and interact with others with an aim of personal development and learning.
I appreciate my hubby in this matter because he respects my relationship with my family, friends, co-workers, and other people whom I met. Thus, as his wife, it is also my responsibility to respect his grounds because he also has family, friends, and co-workers and he meets new people. This is when trust comes in. Trusting one another is a great deal to end being selfish in a relationship.
Alongside trust is Loyalty. You must not take advantage of the trust your spouse or partner has given to you. Rather, reciprocate it with loyalty.
I don’t believe in white lies, especially in any relationship. Yes, it may save you in one occurrence but eventually, the truth will be unveiled in one way or another. Might as well be truthful upfront instead of hiding or veiling the truth until a problem arises.
Keeping lies or secrets will heavily injure your relationship. Dishonesty will break the trust. And once trust is broken it will take time and years to recover it. You cannot even recover it in full terms. It leaves scars. We have seen a lot of marriages end because of one being dishonest to another. It can be about finances, family affairs, wrong personal habits, it can be anything.
Honesty is the best policy! Having a healthy conversation with your partner will help you protect and get a long-lasting relationship. Also, as a partner, have the courage to be ready for whatever revelations you might receive from your spouse. Just stay relaxed and calm. Whatsoever problem you may face; you will be able to address it together.
Infidelity is a broken promise of commitment of being faithful and loyal to your spouse or partner sexually. Infidelity is a heavy betrayal of trust and love. Psychologically speaking, partners who made commitments as part of a marriage vows or privately expressed agreements between lovers must be dealt with in the highest regard. Breaking such commitment only means that you are disregarding your spouse or partner. It means you are tossing your ‘love’ in the trash bin!
Always stick to your moral codes, and always aim to strengthen your relationship with your spouse or partner – sexually or non-sexually.
There are a couple of times that my hubby and I are physically separated as he works overseas. This distance creates a huge gap in terms of attending to our duties as husband and wife. It’s a big challenge for us to fill each other’s emotional and physical needs. To some, this is one of the reasons why infidelity comes in. What we do is, we willingly find ways to address such problems even if we are in a long-distance relationship.
There are several more to consider. Such as money, family affairs, children, time, and so on. But at the end of the day, it’s still up to both of you. How much willingness and effort you will put together to fix any problem. How much willingness and effort you will put together in protecting your relationship from awful habits.
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