Good relationships are vital for many various reasons. Healthy relationships help increase our emotional wellness, create an encouraging impact to our mental and physical health stability. It also help us build connection to family, friends, and mate, and other several benefits.
I’m happy that this coming June 2020 will be our 5th year of joyful marriage life. Having said that, I penned my top five relationship problems you must avoid protecting your healthy relationship with your spouse or partner.
Five Relationship Problems to Avoid
1. Being Egoistic
As human, men and women, we tend to be egoistic. You always want to be heard, to be followed, to be acknowledged and to be recognized as vitally important. Especially if you are in a marital relationship or even in any other relationship. However, being egoistic will lead to a one-way relationship.
One-way relationship means there’s no balance. While everything should be balance for both partners. If there’s no balance in your relationship, there will be lack of happiness. And if your partner is no longer happy with your relationship, then that will start causing problems. Problems which may lead in ending your rapport and intimate bond.
I’m thankful that my hubby and I has fairly managed this problem. Neither me nor him has any issues in terms of being egoistic. Though we have seen few friends having this issue which led them into an unhealthy heated argument. Sadly, eventually to separation.
2. Being Close-minded
One of the vital ingredients in a relationship is tolerance. As a partner or spouse, you must be open-minded towards your husband or wife. Close-minded persons are people who doesn’t want to be challenged. They are afraid of being corrected or improve their selves.
You must not get offended or frustrated if your partner disagrees with you. Believe it or not, my hubby and I have a lot in common and a lot of differences too! In a relationship, there is also differences in terms opinions, beliefs, cultures and traditions.
To handle differences, you need to be a good listener and an observer. Be curious why your partner disagrees from you. Perhaps, he or she has a valid and vital point which will enhance your decisions together and give a long-lasting benefit.
Remember to be tolerant is by being open-minded.
Selfishness is a relationship wrecker. It suffocates your spouse or partner. As humans it’s all natural that we tend to protect our property. But in terms of relationship, because of selfishness you treat your spouse as property which you don’t want to share with others.
Your spouse or partner has his or her own life too. He or she has family, friends, co-workers and other acquaintances. There are times that it is required for them to engage activities with others too. This is to discover their selves, to enhance their social skills and to interact with others in an aim of personal development and learning.
I appreciate my hubby in this matter because he respects my relationship with my family, friends, co-workers and other people whom I met. Thus, as his wife, it is also my responsibility to respect his grounds because he also has family, friends, co-workers and he meets new people. This is when trust comes in. Trusting with one another is a great deal to end being selfish in a relationship.
Along side of trust is Loyalty. You must not take advantage the trust your spouse or partner given to you. Rather, reciprocate it with loyalty.
I don’t believe in white lies especially in any relationship. Yes, it may save you in one occurrence but eventually truth will be unveiled in one way or another. Might as well be truthful upfront instead of hiding or veiling the truth until problem arise.
Keeping lies or secrets will heavily injure your relationship. Dishonesty will break the trust. And once trust is broken it will take time and years to recover it. You cannot even recover it in full terms. It leaves scars. We have seen a lot of marriages ended because of one being dishonest to another. It can be about finances, family affairs, wrong personal habit, it can be anything.
Honesty is the best policy! Having a healthy conversation with your partner will help you protect and get a long-lasting relationship. Also, as a partner, have the courage to be ready whatever revelations you might receive from your spouse. Just stay relax and calm. Whatsoever problem you may face; you will be able to address it together.
Infidelity is a broken promise of commitment of being faithful and loyal to your spouse or partner sexually. Infidelity is a heavy betrayal of trust and love. Psychologically speaking, partners who made commitment as part of a marriage vows or privately expressed agreements between lovers must be dealt with a highest regard. Breaking such commitment only means that you are disregarding your spouse or partner. It means you are tossing your ‘love’ in the trash bin!
Always stick to your moral codes, and always aim to strengthen your relationship with your spouse or partner – sexually or non-sexually.
There are couple of times that my hubby and I are physically separated as he works overseas. This distance creates a huge gap in terms of attending our duties as husband and wife. It’s a big challenge for us to fill each other’s emotional and physical needs. To some, this is one of the reasons why infidelity comes in. What we do is, we willingly find ways to address such problems even if we are in a long-distance-relationship.
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There are several more to consider. Such as money, family affairs, children, time and so on. But at the end of the day, it’s still up to both of you. How much willingness and effort you will put together to fix any problem. How much willingness and effort you will put together in protecting your relationship from awful habits.
I hope I was able to shed light on how you will be able to guard your relationship with your spouse or partner. I wish you all the best and don’t forget to put God Almighty as the center of your relationship!
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